Dating expert: Why this rule is an ‘instant red flag’ in dating – and if you hear it, you need to get out now
- Louanne Ward says this line leads to fractures
- “I don’t want to hurt you” is the red flag
A dating expert has revealed the one line that should be an instant red flag — no matter how promising the relationship seems.
Relationship coach Louanne Ward says if someone says they “don’t want to hurt you,” you should be prepared for a breakup.
“When someone says they don’t want to hurt you, they’re really saying they think you have more feelings for them than they have for you,” she explained.
She said there would be no risk of hurting you if they were committed and “they saw you as future potential.”
She said people who use this rule are more likely to have been “guilty” of leading someone on, despite not sharing the same feelings.
Relationship coach Louanne Ward says if someone says they ‘don’t want to hurt you’ you should be prepared for a breakup
“They may also say this because it makes them seem like they’re a nice, caring person,” she said.
“They don’t have to feel bad because they warned you,” she said.
She then doubled.
“When you hear that line, I don’t want to hurt you, it’s time you got serious and asked yourself ‘what am I doing with this person?’ ‘, she advised.
“If they don’t see you as someone they want to be in a relationship with and they can end it at some point because they don’t have to say that if they don’t intend to end it.”
“This person will end up hurting you if you stay where you are,” she finished.
“When you hear that line I don’t mean to hurt you, it’s time you get serious and ask yourself ‘what am I doing with this person?’ ‘, she advised
And people couldn’t help but agree.
“It’s just a free ticket to get out of jail—as if to say I warned you. You only have yourself to blame. That’s your red flag for flaunting yourself straight out of their lives,” one woman agreed.
Another of her followers said the expert was “delivering truth bombs again” and she laughed.
“It’s what I do… it’s better to be hurt by the truth than destroyed by a lie.”